Day 7- Fratelli Tutti

Can I travel this path alone?

In all these, let’s make family amongst those who wish us well and propel us to be the best and happiest versions of ourselves.

At this point, we most have realised the importance of having a support system. In our journey through life, we would have very high and beautiful moments, we would also have those moments when we begin to question our existence; in those moments all we need is for someone to reassure us that everything is gonna be alright. I very much love the way Nikki Giovanni summarises the concept of friendship and family; “There is always something to do. There are hungry people to feed, naked people to clothe, sick people to comfort and make well. And while I don’t expect you to save the world I do think it’s not asking too much for you to love those with whom you sleep, share the happiness of those whom you call friend, engage those among you who are visionary and remove from your life those who offer you depression, despair and disrespect”.

I like to think that we choose our family. For me, there is a clear-cut difference between family and relatives. Relatives are those with whom we share some blood or conjugal bond while the term family refers to those we’ve chosen to be by their side. They are those we are willing to go the extra mile for. They are people we have grown to trust and love. In loving them, we seek out the best for them. We think in the personalised plural, ‘WE and US’. We neither count cost nor measure who loves the other more. We seek to outdo ourselves in love. We trust each other above all external parties and resolve our differences amongst us.

We have those necessary moments of outburst, but at the end of the day, we go running into each other’s arms. This bond is something we consciously build upon, each day, until the moment we draw our last breath. Each day, we renew the commitment to do right by them. We renew the willingness to go over and beyond, in satisfying the needs of our family members. We share in the their pain because it is our pain, just as their joys are ours.

I think it is important that as we journey through life that we do not loose focus of the things that matter the most. Having an amazing career and being able to afford the good things of life is something noble and worth striving for but at the end of the day it is important that we create many beautiful memories with those we call family. Play games together, exchange life experiences, grab meals as a family, go on boat rides, spend time by the beach, appreciate art and nature. Just like Robin Williams said, “We don’t read and write poetry because it’s cute. We read and write poetry because we are members of the human race. And the human race is filled with passion. And medicine, law, business, engineering, these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life. But poetry, beauty, romance, love, these are what we stay alive for.”

In all these, let’s make family amongst those who wish us well and propel us to be the best and happiest versions of ourselves.

We most also realise that beyond the natural, there exists the supernatural. We have developed various names for it but each person in the most quiet moments of life, realise that there are certain things which we cannot explain by the laws of nature. Man is by nature, a religious being and being religious isn’t something we should shy away from. It is important that we pursue our convictions in the existence of a supreme being or its lack thereof without being antagonistic towards one another. Let the atheist find solace in his convictions without berating the theist and may the theist not be focused on how doomed the atheist of agnostic is. It is equally important that we avoid the dangers of moral relativism, this would be more pertinent as we go through life, ascending through the ladder of success and moving from ‘nobodys’ to ‘powerful people’ . We must have clearly defined principles. The crisis of society today could be linked to a lack of principle. We live in a society where our values change based on what suits our present needs. We must be willing to lead a life whose fulfilment isn’t absolutely dependent on riches and fame. I would like to leave you with a few fundamental questions: What is the purpose of your existence ? What are you willing to give you life for? What are your absolutes?

We would lead more purposeful lives when we have these answers.